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Letting Go
When things aren't working out the way we want them to, there's always the impulse to hold on to him, to it, to the way it was, to how you wanted it to be, to how you want it now. But if you want to get through any crisis you will have to let fo of whatever is standing in your way or causing the problem; these are like handcuffs around your ankles. It is important that you learn to let go of whatever is not serving you, whatever you no longer need, whatever keeps you from moving forward, whatever you're so attached to that you can't see where you're going. Letting go maybe scary, but not growing, because of a refusal to let go can limit the success and happiness in your life. Trust that if you let go of something that is not good for youor that is not serving you, that your life will turn toward a direction that will bring you a better life.
Your Ideal Self
Your ideal self is the self you would really like to be, but who is that self really? In some cases the ideal self can be a fantasy. In other words, sometimes we want to model ourselves after movie stars, sports personalities, political figures, other members of the media or someone we grew up around that we came to admire. In our youth, these ideas are harmless, because they serve to help us develop our sense of identity. However, as we get older, it is important to take a look at who we are immulating today. It's actually okay to channel someone you admire through your ideal self, as an adult, as long as this helps you develop into your authentic self or gives you something to aim for that would be in alignement with your authentic self and your purpose in life.
On the other hand, if the discrepancies between your ideal self and your authentic are to expansive, or if the qualities of each are completely different. That could lead to confusion, disappointment, and a profound sense of dissatisfaction with yourself. It is a good idea to make sure your ideal self and your authentic self are mutually supportive.
Remember to Remember
Remember What? Remember to love and serve always. When you do, you will receive the best that life has to offer. Remind yourself everyday, that you will show love where ever you can. So do your best to remember. Remember what? Remember that, love overcomes fear and love will open the gates of heaven and more than you ever dreamed of will flow your way. As you remember, know that you have a choice every moment between love or fear. You can choose consciously to love and it is a far better choice, always. As you continue to remember, remind yourself that you are a child of God and that makes you an essential part of a miraculous creation. Remember that, as long as you have love you can find the perfect partenership within yourself in your intuition and your spirit that supports you and loves you. If you truly want to be happy, all you have to do is remember. Remember that loving and serving yourself and others is the key to fulfillment and inner peace.
What Type of Friend are You?
Have you ever stopped to think about if you are a good friend to others? Sometimes we think we are a good friend, but sometimes we could use a little polishing in the friendship area. Read below and circle the section that reminds you of you. Then check with your friend to see what she has to say. Remember, to keep it light. If your friend does not agree with your choice, it is not that deep. It is just an opinion, but do give it a little thought to see if she is right or not. If she is not correct, shake it off and move on and continue being friends.
a. Solid as a rock - If your friend needs your help, you are there for her. She can count on you not to gossip about her or judge her actions that you do not agree with. You both communicate with each other whenever possible or necessary. You are a supportive, but honest and loving friend.
b. I do the best that I can - You have a lot going in your life, but you do your best to be supportive of your friend and you take the time to listen to her or help when you can. You call her to talk sometimes and she calls you sometimes. You really want your friend to be okay, but you are also responsible for so many others, so you do the best you can.
c. Fair weather - You like talking to your friend as long as she does not have any challlenges or problems going on in her life. You love to be around her when it's time to go shopping, to the movies, or to have fun. If she needs help, you are really not the one to call. You just do not want to deal with what you call "drama", even though everyone needs help every now and then, you are not the one to call on.
d. Wishy washy - You level of friendship is based on the type of mood you are in that day. If you are having a bad day, you really do not care what you friend's issue is, you do not want to be bothered. You really only want to deal with her when you are feeling in a better mood.
e. What about me? - You are only interested what your friend can do for you. You only want her to listen to you and you really do not have a lot of time to here what's going on with her. It really is all about you. It's not like she has anything interesting going on her life. You already know her story and you really don't need to hear it again. You are the one who needs the help and needs to be listen to. The real question is: What has she done for you, lately?
f. The Vampire - You are constantly sucking the life out of your friends with your drama and constant negativity. You are not really trying to solve your problems, you just want to whine about them and you want someone to listen to them.
g. The Encourager - You support your friend, no matter what type of idea she comes up with. If she thinks she can do it, you cheer her on and if she fails, you are there to console her and encourage her to never give up.
If you are: a, b, or g - you are a good friend and who would not want you as a friend. She is blessed to have you in her life.
If you are: c, d, e, or f - consider taking a look at yourself and ask yourself would you want you as a friend?
Have a Healthy Self Interest
Healthy self-interest is confused with selfishness, but the two are actually quite different. Learning about what you need and like, appreciating your strengths and abilities, spending time pursuing your interests and satisfactions, even recognizing your shortcomings are very valuable things.
Become the person who accepts others as they are without demanding that they change to meet your unresolved childhood needs. You are not an insecure person, you are a whole, complete, beautiful being in harmony with the biggest energy that you can imagine. With no limited thoughts about yourself, you can feel confidence and freedom of not requiring constant reassurance to feel good about yourself.
Be a Good Friend to Yourself
Sometimes, it is easier to be a friend to someone else than it is to be to yourself. We treat others better than we treat ourselves. Has someone ever called and said they were coming over for a visit and you jumped up started cleaning your house? We clean our house for strangers, but not for ourselves. The reality of it is, you should clean for yourself just as you would for any visitor. Being friendly toward yourself is a definite priority. Until you can become your own bestfriend, it will be difficult for you to develop truly satifying friendships with others. You may have friendships, but are you truly satisfied? Of course, that is a question only you can answer. If you are not truly satisfied, then consider working on your friendship with yourself. Make a decision that, from this moment on, you will never be less than friendly toward yourself:
- No more treating yourself like a slave.
- No more putting yourself down-ever.
- No more negative assumption.
- No more torment over past events that you can't change.
- No more "putting up with" other people's abuse or unkindness.
- No more postponing doing what you love most.
Use the suggestions above and the way you feel on the inside, will radically change. It will also change the way that you think about other people, interpret their behavior, respond to them and act toward them. You will begin to see the world as a friendly place, no matter what type of disappointments or hassles you've been through, once the world inside your own mind is friendly. Oh, and do not forget to pamper yourself no matter what. Need some ideas a massage or any other spa treatment will do.
Becoming a Mindful Woman (The Benefits of a Mindful Life)
Mindfulness is being aware of yourself, others, and your surrounding in the moment. When focusing your awareness on life as it unfolds minute by precious minute, you are better able to savor each experience. Being closely attentive gives you the opportunity to change unwise or painful feelings and responses quickly. Being present in a mindful wasy is an excellent stress reducer and a strengthening workout for your body, mind, heart, and spirit. By practicing mindful moments you can ultimately have a more present and peaceful way of life. Some of the elements of mindfulness are:
1. Paying Attention - focused attention allows you to see clearly and in finer detail. concentrsted awareness leads to better understanding of and appreciation for that which we are attentive to.
2. Living in the Moment - When consciously doing, thinking, or experienceing something, our attention is fully engaged and we are connected to the reality of what is gong on. Living in the moment helps alleviate feelings of being over whelmed.
3. Simplifying - It is easier to manage almost anything if you simplyify it by taking one small step at a time, one little bite at a time...moment by moment.
4. Breathing - Breathing is the bridge between body and mind and the gateway to the present moment. Using your breath consciously and constructively enhances your vitality, increases daily joy, opens you more fully to love and brings you richly and deeply into the practice of mindfulness. (Not the same as meditating.)
Achieving Inner Peace
If you want to be your best self, you must work to achieve inner peace. You will have the mental clarity and develop the spiritual strength to achieve any goal you decide to achieve. You will also raise your energy to a higher level and then you will attract your hearts desires. Below are a few tips to get you started on the road to achieving inner peace.
1. Have a mind that is open and be attached to nothing. - Refuse to allow yourself to have low expectations about what you are capable of attracting into your life. To do that, you must have an open mind and not be attached to anything. If you are attached to being right or absolutely need something in order to be at peace or to be successful, you will live a life of striving, yet never arriving. Learn to enjoy it all, but never make your happiness or success dependent on any attachement to anything, any place, and especially any person.
2. Do not leave this earth with your music still in you. - Be sure to work passionately on your purpose and that sometimes means taking a risk. Do not be afraid of failure, because failure is not real. All you are doing is producing a result, that will lead you to your ultimate destination of success, if you do not give up.
3. Embrace Silence - When you can become silent, you will find the peace you crave in your daily life.
4. You can not solve a problem with the same thought process you used to create it. - If you introduce absolute truth into a situation it will be solved almost instantly.
5. Be sure not to resent anyone or anything. - Look for reasons to operate in joy, love, and peace. Do not be easily offended.
6. Treat Yourself as if you are already what you'd like to become. - Place your thoughts on what you would like to become. If you can see yourself as you would like to become, your confidence will increase and eventually you will become the person you have always wanted to become.
7. Know the you are a divine cration of God. - Never separate from God, no matter what. God is your source, and if you separate from Him, you will lose your divine power.
The Power of Being Honest with Yourself
"Ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free." John 8:32
If you want to have love and peace in your life and to live in light of a new day, you must become fully present to your deeper truth _ not a truth from your head, but a truth from your heart; not a truth from your ego, but a truth from the highest source. You have to be willing to be deeply honest with yourself about the shape your life is in each day. You must be honest about the good, the bad, and the ugly about what works and what doesn't, so that you can live accordance with your highest self. When you fail to tell the truth, you are kept bound to your past in ways that devastate your soul. Truth is the very thing that can change your life. Truth will make you free, and allow you to step into your limitless self. You will be confronted each day with old habits and patterns that are not necessarily based on truth. If you want your soul soar to a higher level, you must take an honest daily inventory of your life. When the truth is present, God is present in your life and the holy spirit is present. When God is present, there is a lack of disease, financial, mental, and emotional issues and if you currently have any issues, you will have an inner peace about them until they dissipate. As a matter of fact, as yourself where is the self deceit and you may find the route of many of life's challenges. This is a great time to write in your journal. Tell yourself the truth about you. Do not belittle yourself, but be honest about who you are and who you would like to become. Acknowledge if you have been spending more time complaining about what's going wrong, then complaining about what's going right.
Many time we don't tell the truth, because lying to ourselves give us the easy day out. This empowers our ego's and we start to think we can do it alone. God is truth and without Him, we have limited power. Truth is the presence of the greatest expression of your soul. It is important to confront lies that hold power over your destiny.
What to write in your Journal about Truth:
1. Take an inventory of those places where you are still living inside a lie (even if it's a small one.) Where are you living a smaller expression of your soul's truth.
2. Make a list of excuses, rationalizations, justifications, and stories you are telling yourself about why you have not been able to create and change this area of your life.
3. Now imagine that in each area you've identified, you made an agreement in the past that has kept this pattern in place. For example, if you are still struggling with your finances and haven't been able to move forward in manifesting your desired result imagine that you are just fulfilling an old internal agreement that you signed in the past. If this were true, what would this agreement say? "I promise to never be more sucesseful than my mother (or father)?" Or "I promise to always maintain the lie that money is the root of all evil?" Just close your eyes and ask yourself, "What agreements am I holding on to that are keeping me stuck in the past and creating the same results in the present?"
4. Take your time and when you find the agreements that are still negatively directing your life, write them down on a piece of paper, write, "null and void" at the top, and sign your name to it. Then write out new agreements that would ensure your success. If you need help with this, just close your eyes and ask your higher self to make you aware of the new agreements that would be an expression of a soul living in accordance with God's will.
5. After you have written down both sets of agreements and have placed them in front of you, choose which agreements you will live by. That's right: decide which agreements are divine agreements for your soul. Then, close your eyes, breathe in deeply, and tell yourself in the presence of spirit that you have powerfully chosen your future. Take the other list of agreements and tear it up into a hundred pieces, until there is nothing more to tear. When those tired old agreements have been transformed into nothing more than little shreds of paper, joyfully gather them up, take them outside and throw them in the garbage where they belong. Now is the time to smile, breathe deeply, and send yourself some extra loving.
6. Finally, to seal in the power of truth that is evident in your new life-affirming agreements, read them over every night for one month.
More About Honesty
Keep in mind, that honesty begins with self-awareness. When we are unaware of the feelings and beliefs running our lives, our ability to be honest, and to make choices about our future, is limited. Work on becoming more comfortable with you and eventually you will be able to share yourself more deeply with others. Below are some areas you may want to check to see where you may want to assess honestly. You may want to write about each category in your journal:
__ Health - do you eat right, exercise, get enough rest, and take supplements, needed.
__ Relationships and Family - Are there any relationships you need to repair? Are you estranged from your family because of
your attitude?
__ Finances - Are you earning what you are worth? Do you manage your money properly?
__ Career - Are you working in your dream career? Are you doing what you are passionate about?
__ Emotional - Are you emotionally healthy, ie.: No excessive anger issues, constant depression, or any feeling that keeps you
from excelling in life?
__ Spiritual - Do you spend time reading the Bible, talking to God, listening to God, or any other quiet time?
__ Intellectual Development - How much time do you spend reading or learning new things?
__ Service - How much time do you spend serving others, ie: serving the homeless, mentoring young children, or reading to the
elderly.
__ Play - Are you all work and no play? Do spend time doing some fun things.
Be sure to look yourself directly in the eyes, be honest, and take action.
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Getting Yourself Ready for Fun, Friends and a Fantastic Life
One of the keys to attracting the type of man you want in your life is to, attract the kind of life you want first. Here is a tip: Do not expect the knight in shining armor to come along if you are the damsel in distress. If you want that gorgeous, special, successful man, you must be more of the gorgeous, princess, successful or on your way to success type. (Keep in mind beauty is in the eye of the beholder.) There was a time when men wanted to rescue you from a life of poverty, but because of their fear of "gold diggers", they are looking for someone who has something to bring to the table, just as well as they do, so put your best foot forward and use your God-given gifts to take you where you have always wanted to go and you may just find your prince charming waiting for you, when you get there. Here are few tips to help you feel more attractive as you go on your day to day journey toward success in life, love, and happiness:
1. Always step out looking your best - Yes, even if you are just running up the street to the grocery store. Single men have to eat to and they don;t all eat out and even if they are not cooking, they still shop for the basics; milk, coffee, pastries, cereal, and lots of frozen entrees. You do not have to dress like you are going to a formal affair just to go to the grocery store. Remember, less is more. Simply take the time to look neat and well-groomed. Although you are not going to the grocery store looking for a man, looking your best will make you feel good and you will certainly put out the right vibes and who knows what will happen. The point is...be ready!
2. Strut your stuff - Do you best to have good posture and walk with confidence. I probably sound like your mother. That's right: "stand up straight". When you walk with you head held high and with good posture, you will exude confidence. Showing confidence will always add to your attractiveness. The energy you put out when you are walking with confidence automatically makes you more approachable.
3. Be aware of your body language - When you are sitting, do you sit with you arms folded? If you do, did you realize that you are sending a message that says, "Please, do not talk to me or approach me, because I am shutting the world out."? It is so important that you be aware of how you are sitting, standing, and what you are doing with your arms.
4. Be the happiest person you know - Happy people are not only attractive, they are fun to be around and lots of people want to be in their space, so if you are a positive happy lady, lots of men will find their way to your space. Complaining not only brings frown lines while you are still young, they make you look old before your time, so lighten up. Smiling and laughing a lot does not make you look goofy, silly, or to hyper, it makes you come across as a girl with her self-esteem in tact. What guy wouldn't want to be with you.
Tips to a More Beautiful You
1. Be as good as your word - there is something attractive about a women who does what she says she is going to do. It says she has it all together and she knows which direction she's headed.
2. Don't exaggerate or stretch the truth (Be yourself) - Pretending to be someone you're not takes away from your strength as a woman. It sends the message that you do not like who you are. If you do not like yourself, get to work on making the changes you can live with, but in the meantime, embrace the wonder that is you.
3. Have confidence in yourself. It is important that you believe in you - We can not talk about confidence enough. Somehow, life seems to flow better, even on those not so good days, when you lead with your confidence. Having confidence also puts out a vibe that says you are in control of your destiny.
4. Be as polite as possible. Cockiness is an unattractive quality, especially in women - Being loud and rude is just wrong. That does not mean you have to be a push over, but you can certainly get your point across without finger waving, neck moving, and screaming to be intimidating. In fact, the lower and more stern the tone, the more you will be taken seriously, the better your results, and you will keep your respectability in tact. You also won't be responsible for ruining your own day.
5. Be honest. That is not the same as "setting someone straight" or "getting someone told" - Being honest is not to be confused with the need to give a negative opinion in your quest to share the truth with others. "Keeping it real" can be so over rated. Although, it is important that you stay true to yourself, don't let being honest get confused with simply being a big mouth.
6. Keep God or put God at the center of your Universe - Trying to control everything with your own strength can be exhausting. Let go and let God. You will have the power to make any change necessary and your journey toward the life you imagine for yourself will be easier and much more fun.
7. Do not Judge others - If you have an opinion on everything, somewhere in there you are judging someone or something - Relax and have fun. In other words, lighten up and don't be so opinionated. Having all the answers must be a heavy burden.
8. Be in the present moment - Taking life one step at a time or moving like a whirl wind is great, as long as you're doing it in the present moment. Do not worry about "if" or "when", just have fun and stay away from worrying about what will happen in the future.
Things you can do for fun
1. Go shopping
2. Take yourself out to dinner or go with your girlfriends
3. Invite the girls over and watch a funny movie, be sure to have lots of popcorn.
4. Plan a short rode trip and make a CD of your favorite songs. Have a sing-along. (It doesn't matter if you can sing or not.)
5. Invite the girls over for tea and pastries. Discuss your positive goals. (No negativity allowed. Cheering is allowed.)
6. Have a game night. Invite mixed company, if possible. (Not for romance, just for fun.)
7. Have a dreamboard night. Have Everyone bring old magazines and their own poster board. Find pictures of the things you have
been dreaming about. Cut them out and paste them on your board and when you have your dream boards complete. Have fun
doing show and tell.
8. Catch a live play or your favorite concert. Make it a night to dress up in your best clothes.
9. Spend the day at the beach. Take a picnic basket, and your favorite book. Do this with or without friends. (Remember the
sunscreen
10. Go play tennis with a friend. It doesn't matter if you can play or not. Just get together and hit some balls. The fresh air and
movement will be good for you.
11. Invite a few friends over for coffee and cake. Spice it up by serving assorted gourmet coffees and having subjects ready to discuss as everyone shares their opinion. Save time and money by ordering your coffees in advance. FREE Shipping - No Matter the amount you buy!
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More Fun Things
1. Play a wii game (or with an X-box).
2. Gather up a group of friends and go to an amusement park.
3. Dance for no reason, put on some music and let her rip.
4. Have a cartoon festival: Choose your favorite cartoons from when you were a kid or even now and watch them all. Don't forget the
snacks (make it healthy, but delicious comfort food).
5. Go fly a kite. No really, on a windy day, get yourself a really beautiful kite and let it ride the wind.
6. Do some finger painting or simply paint on a canvas until your heart is content. It doesn't have to make sense. Just have fun.
Making Yourself More Attractive
One of the things you can do to make yourself more attractive in any situation is to be sure that you are honoring one of the most important people you know...yourself. It is necessary to create a balance between feeling good and feeling good about yourself. Pay attention to the messages you are sending yourself daily, be careful not to send yourself a message on a deeper level that says, your needs are not important and that you are not valuable enough to take care of yourself. If you do not honor yourself, you are giving others permission to dishonor you. Keep in mind that being self-absorbed, arrogant, or easily angered may feel good temporarily, but it is also another form of dishonoring yourself. The message you are giving yourself is that you find your power in anger, control, or pretending to be superior.
Being abrasive and unaporoachable will sabotage your efforts at happiness and once again, you are dishonoring yourself. Being passive and overly submissive is equally as dishonoring as being hostile and arrogant. Choose to honor yourself throughout your daily life if you wish to create a healthy, happy, and attractive personal energy field. The more attractive your personal energy field, the more attractive you will be to yourself and others. Here are some ideas on how to honor yourself:
a. Always take responsibility for yourself and your choices.
b. Be honest with yourself and others, even when it's risky.
c. Allow yourself to express emotions (including anger) appropriately.
d. Permit yourself to have reasonable expectations within any relationship and be willing to, kindly, express them. You do not have
to settle.
e. Make a decision that show a reverence for your life, physical and emotional health.
f. Be true to your spiritual values.
g. Have a healthy respect for your time, energy, and peace of mind.
h. Learn to accept yourself and others without judgement.
i. Be of service to others purely for the joy it brings to your life.
j. Learn to be flexible and comfortable with change.
Self-honoring displays the highest regard for your dignity and your physical and emotional well-being. It shows a strong determination never to sacrifice these things for less than you deserve.
Shifting Your Energy Into High Gear
When you catch yourself worrying or devaluing yourself in anyway, you must force yourself to stop. If you want a man who has it going on, first, be a woman who has it going on. When you see yourself as a priceless being, God returns that love to you in a myriad of wonderful and unexpected ways. Love always seeks to express and expand. The energy of pure love wants to come your way, but you must welcome it in your heart; in your thoughts and in your choices, actions, and reactions.
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This is a new year and it is out with the old, so you can experience the new. Clearing out the emotional clutter can not only clear the way for you to attract the love you need into your life, it can help you find peace within. It is necessary to express your feelings in order to acknowledge the emotional side of your life. You must move through your feelings, so you can move them out of your frequency. In other words, you must deal with your feelings so you can clear the way for positive thinking, joy, and all the feelings that will make life feel so much better. In order to move through your feelings, you must first identify them and let yourself experience them.
You need to uncover any hurt feelings and express them so you no longer have to carry their energy with you. If you are divorced and you are harboring hurt or anger and you can not seemed to let those feelings go, it is because you have not identified with those feelings and acknowleged them. This might be a good time to start journaling. That is the perfect way to start working through your feelings. You can also talk your feelings out with someone you trust and no matter what, let yourself feel, so you can let it all go.
Caution: Be careful not to wallow in negative feelings too long, that can become a habit. As you work through your emotions, you can help them change by changing your thinking.
In time you will begin to see yourself as valuable and you will be valued by others. You will begin to see yourself as being worthy of love and you will become loving and you will attract love.
If you continue to have a hard time seeing yourself as being valuable or lovaeable, then your first priority is to change your perception of yourself.
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Getting Ready from Head to ToeLet's not lose sight as to why you are visiting this website. You are getting ready for your best self and creating the most attractive you that you can create. Remember, the more attractive you feel inside and out, the higher your vibrations for attracting the kind of life you want, will be. In this section we will be working on the outside you. Many women have said, "If he doesn't like me for who I am, than forget him.". That comment only applies when you are putting your best forward and he is still not interested. Constantly stating, "This is who I am." is so overused. Many of us don't know who we are until, we have taken steps to sharpen our self-confidence, boost our self-esteem, spend some quiet, and mold and shape our exterior self.
What about when it comes to wearing make-up and we claim we have no time to apply it? What message are you sending when you say you have no time to look your best? Comments like, "I don't need make-up, because my skin is already pretty." just proves that you might need a better understanding of what wearing makeup is all about. How about, when some women of color, say, "I don't need make-up, I already have color in my skin."? Another comment made based on not realizing that make-up is about highlighting and enhancing the you already have. Please, don't get offended. We are here to learn something new or to confirm what we may already know. (Besides, if you feel strongly about these comments talk to Ms. Unique in her blog or send us your comments in the "Sister Speaks" area.) In the meantime, let's get on with shaping things up, so the butterfly in you can spread her wings.
In this section you will learn some tips for creating a more sexy, sultry, you and when you desire, a more fun, softer you. If you want to attract the "diamond life", you've got to start acting like and looking like a diamond girl. Below are the areas you will want to focus on. If you don't know what to do, get some help in every area. Keep visiting this site and you will find some tips that will help you reach your goal.
HAIR - It is okay to try new lengths, shapes, or different hair colors. Trying new styles should be a fun experience. If you want to wear your hair in it's natural state, no chemicals, go ahead. Adding a perm, color, weave, or simply cutting your hair short is all perfect, as long as it feels good to you. Stay tuned for information on styling your hair.
SKIN CARE - the way your skin looks says a lot about you. If you're stressed, it can show in your skin. If you are unhappy that glow just might not be there. If you are not eating right, it will definitely show in your face in the form of acne or a lack luster look, so taking care of your skin is important. Finding a skin care regiment that works for you is as important as eating right and exercising. Do you homework and try different products until you discover what is right for you. Trying different products can be costly, click here to view discounted brand name products.
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BODY - "...do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you.... So glorify God in your body." (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
If your health fails, it can overshadow everything else you want to do. Even minor aches, pains, and lethargy can effect the outcome of your life's events. Make a commitment to develop healthier habits when it comes to your body. It is amazing that people will spend 20 to 40 dollars on junk food or dining out, but will not spend a dime on supplements, vitamins, and healthier foods. You have one body, so treat it like the rare jewel, it was born to be. Check out "building you on the outside" and "building you on the inside".
DRESSING - How you dress says a lot about what you think of yourself. Dressing with style is not about how much money you spend on your clothes. It is about how you coordinate your wardrobe and how you wear them. Dressing your age and being sexy means not letting everything hang out. Wether you are 21 or 55, no one wants to see it all. Cover up some skin and leave something to the imagination.
Be sure to periodically update your wardrobe. Too tight? Too small? Donate it to the Salvation Army and buy some clothes that fit. You do not have to spend a fortune on your wardrobe, but whatever you purchase should fit. If you purchase something that looks good on you, but could use a little snipping and tucking here and there, have it tailored. It may cost less than you think.
Also, keep in mind, dressing with style is as much about your attitude as it is about the clothes you wear. Display a lot of confidence (not cockiness), walk straight, flash your wonderful smile and you will turn heads where ever you go.
FEET- getting a professional pedicure, not only feels good, it can make you feel, like you are walking on air. Of course, taking the time to groom your feet professionally or at home can be a treat. After grooming your feet polish with your favorite nail polish. Wether you are wearing open toe shoes or a pair of stylish pumps, you will feel sharp and sexy. You'll feel even sharper if you win a $100 shoe shopping spree. CLICK HERE FOR DETAILS ON WINNING A $100 SHOE SHOPPING SPREE!
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HANDS - Be sure to moisturize, exfoliate and apply sunscreen to your hands. Doing tht regiment on a daily basis will slow down the aging process on your hands. If you have not been giving your hands the proper care, get started today and with regular care, you will otice younger looking hands.
Creating a Physical Environment for Attracting the Best
Sometimes the only time we clean up is when guests are coming over. What your personal space looks like when there is bo one there but you, says a lot about you. One of the ways to feel good about yourself, is to create a living space that is clean, organize, smells good, and looks comfortable.
If your living space is cluttered, spend some time each day throwing away, or giving away items you will never use. The less clutter you have the clearer you mind will become.
Building You on the Inside
The inside is just as important as the outside. Infact, when the inside gets cleaned up, the outside will definitely clean itself up and vice versa, but the object of the game is to get everything in tact. That means improving your self-confidence, self-esteem and staying healthy. Of course, staying healty is an inside and an outside job. That means eating right, taking the necessary vitamins and exercising. Here's a tip, cleansing and other natural products can work wonders for your system. Find out more about different supplements that will help improve diabetes, digestive health, memory, blood pressure, and weight. (click on supplements or vitamins above for more information.) You can also vist www.behealthyandvibrant.com for healthy recipes, exercise tips, and vitamin suggestions.
In addition to eating right, exercising, and taking the right supplements, nothing beats a little quiet time. Be sure to spend some time feeding your Spirit through prayer, meditation, and reading the Bible, daily.
Have Personal Devotion Time
Having personal time involves more than us pampering ourselves. It involves taking sometime to be still, reading a daily Bible passage, talking to God and listening to God. That is our personal devotion time. Constantly being on the move and not taking time to reflect on your life or to listen to God can bring about more stress than you deserve. All of the answers to your hearts desires are inside you, yet that is the last place that many of us look. Most of the time, we turn to our friends, who probably have to devote most of their energy into getting or keeping their own lives together.
Tips for Improving Your Self-Confidence
"Cast not away therefore your confidence, which hath great recompence of reward." (Hebrews 10:35)
Confidence is not a thing. It is a behavior. Here are a few tips to help you adopt the type of behavior that help you attract the type of life you will come to love.
1. Loose weight - if you think you could stand to drop a few
pounds.
2. Work on getting rid of any self-limiting beliefs. You can
do anything you think you can, no matter what anyone
says.
3. Get rid of negative emotions and replace them with
positve ones.
4. Speak with authority: I am, I will do, I can do....
5. Smile
(For more tips pick up a copy of Unstoppable Confidence by Kent Sayre)
Increasing Your Self-esteem
No matter what happens in your life, it is so important that you like the person you see when you look in the mirror. Sometimes life events can shake our confidence and deflate our self-esteem. What ever has happened, you will need them both to feel good about you and to give you the push you need to achieve any dream you have for yourself. When giving your self-esteem the once over, keep in mind that self-esteem is based on 3 factors:
1. Unconditional Human Worth - no matter what
anyone says, you are worth a bundle and then some.
Start treating yourself like it.
2. Love - You are worthy of love, so give it freely, expect
it back and accept it when it comes your way.
3. Growing - Trying new things, learning new things,
and successfully accomplishing new things will
definitely give your self-esteem a boost.
Here are some other concepts that are related to self-esteem:
a. The purpose of self-esteem is to transcend your self. It
is not about being selfish.
b. If you want to feel your best take care of your body.
You can not ignore your body and feel good about
yourself.
c. Having a positive self-esteem is all about your identity.
You must know who you are or who you want to be.
Caution: Be yourself. Imitating someone else's
identity means you do not like who God made you to
be. Find you.
d. Self-acceptance is so crucial. Do not try to be
someone you are not. Accept yourself just as
you are.
e. Increase your spiritual self in the right way and your
self-esteem will soar.
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Building You on the Outside
Men are visual. Like it or not, they like a woman who looks good. What does that mean? It means you want to look your best by being in shape physically. It is not about being bone thin, it's about being physically fit. Let's get real, saying, "If he doesn't like me as I am, he can find someone else." makes no sense. Be honest with yourself. Do you really mean that? No matter what your size is, there is a man who likes a woman like you; however, you increase your options when you are in shape. It is important to point out that being in shape and exercising, so you can look your best is not just about getting a man. This site is about you becoming your best, but because it is also about you attracting the right companion in your life, putting all the cards on the table about physical fitness, just seems, well...,fit. Want a self-esteem boost? Start working out, right away.
Below are a few suggestions for getting in shape:
1. Start walking at least six days a week.
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2. Find a fitness center to join. You can find a great
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3. Hire a personal trainer. The rates can be
reasonable.
4. Start educating yourself on physical fitness and healthy eating. New Year, New You: magazines to get you fit and in shape for 2010 at Magazines.com Oxygen magazine, Women's Health, Fitness, Cooking Light and/or Shape Magazine (s) are a great place to start. Click on the link to take "
Ideas of What to Eat for a Slimmer You
Here are some foods you can eat if you want to experience some weight loss. Not only will they make you slimmer, they are healthier for you. Eating healthier for most of us is just a matter of being aware of what we should be eating. There are tons of healthy foods you can eat, but here are few ideas to get you started:
1. Egg Whites - Low in fat, high in protein, riboflavin, and micronutrients like Selenium which may have anti-cancer properties. Mixing one whole egg with three or four egg whites without will give you the delicious taste without too much saturated fat and cholesterol. You can also prepare your egg whites with sauteed mushrooms and tomatoes. Delicious!
2. Oatmeal - high in fiber, it also can keep your energy levels up and your blood sugar stable. Avoid pre-flavored, pre-packaged instant oatmeal, unless eating regular oatmeal. The other has too much sugar.
3. Beans - high in fiber, and may reduce the risk of certain cancers and heart disease. They are high in protein and antioxidants. (Canned or dry-cooked is good.)
4. Fish - Some fish is high in Omega-3 fatty acids. This healthy oil in fish, can improve circulation, discourage blood clots, reduce blood pressure, as well as possibly improve your mood. Fresh fish is preferable, but canned fish such as salmon, tuna, and mackeral are usually a good substitute. Canned fish is higher in sodium, so you may want to choose fresh fish.
5. Nuts - Almonds, walnuts, Brazil nuts, and pecans are great to eat, because of high levels of antioxidants, healthy fats, and high mineral levels. Regular consumtion of nuts, especially almonds have been shown to reduce cardiovascular disease, type II diabetes, certain cancers, and possibly alzheimers disease. They are also high in fiber and protein. Nuts have been considered to be "fattening", but people who eat nuts tend to weigh less than people who do not. Fresh, unsalted nuts in the shell or out are perfect as a snack. Get fresh nuts just the way you like them try , GourmetNut.com!+10%off all orders! Click on the link to learn more.
6. Leafy Vegetables, cauliflower, brussel sprouts and radishes - Cabbage, turnips, collards, romaine lettuce and other leafy vegetables are great to eat. They are high in vitamin C. Some have iron and vitamin B, and selenium and soluble fiber.,
7. Apples - high in fiber, antioxidants, vitamins and minerals. They are low calorie, no added sugar, no fat, or cholesterol.
8. Berries - blackberries, blueberries, raspberries, cranberries, and strawberries are extremely high in antioxidants, low in fat, and are good sources of fiber.
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Soaking Up Sun is a Good Thing
Vitamin D is a fat-soluble vitamin that is naturally present in very few foods, added to others, and available as a dietary supplement. It is also produced endogenously when ultraviolet rays from sunlight strike the skin.
Vitamin D is essential for promoting calcium absorption in the gut and maintaining adequate serum calcium and phosphate concentrations to enable normal mineralization of bones. It is also needed for bone growth and bone remodeling. Without sufficient vitamin D, bones can become thin, brittle, or misshapen. Vitamin D sufficiency prevents rickets in children and osteomalacia in adults. Together with calcium, vitamin D also helps protect older adults from osteoporosis.
Vitamin D has other roles in human health, including reduction of inflammation.
Recommended Self-Improvement Books to Read this Month
Radical Self-Forgiveness Colin Tipping
Light Side of Dark Chasers Debbie Ford
Elemental Love Styles Dr. Craig Martin
Be Your Own Shaman Deborah King
Love for No Reason Marci Shimoff
Be sure to check this list each month and choose one or more of these books to read. It is so important that you learn new information for yourself. That is part of building you.
