What Women Want From Men

Invite that special man in your life to this page.  Men here are a few thoughts your woman has been itching to share with you.  We are all about making relationships between men and women better, so feel free to share your thoughts below.  We will only publish your initials and your comments will help the ladies get a better understanding of a man's world, but in the meantime check out what women want you to know:  

1.  Women want men to love them completely, passionately, and romantically.

2.  Women want nonsexual affection.

3.  Women want acceptance.  She doesn't want you to fix her.  If you love her unconditionally, she will grow on her own.

4.  When you make a mistake, women want you to acknowledge it and apologize for it.  That does not make you less of a man.  It makes you more of a man and it makes her cooperate and respect you more.

5.  There is no perfect woman, so leave the criticism out of the relationship.

6.  Women love men with a sense of humor.  So lighten up and have fun.

7.  Spend some time getting to know her and do not spend all your time together talking about yourself.

8.  Be honest with her.  If you are not looking for a committed relaltionship and you just want to have fun, tell her.  We know, you're thinking, we've got to be kidding, but we are not.

9.  There will be problems in the relationship as it grows from one level to the next.  Women want men to simply take the time to talk it out and work it out with love (if you're at that point).  Do not chalk it up to her being a difficult woman and walk away to find the next girl. If you work it out, you may find the girl of your dreams once things clear up.

10. Women want men who feel great about themselves.  That's not girly, you deserve to feel great about yourself.

11. Women want men to repect the fact that they are emotional beings who sometimes need intimacy and understanding.  

5 Ways to Make up with the love of your life

When you make a mistake and eventually you will, maybe these suggestions can help you quickly put things back on the right track:

1.  Simply apologize - This is the easiest, fastest and nicest way to warm her heart.  Move foolish pride out of the way and just say, "I'm  sorry." .  A nice soft hug will add a little more power.          

2.  Give her a Spa treatment if you know you've been a "pain in the neck".  No need to stress over where to send her, click here to make it lady's choice.      

3.  Cook her a forgiveness breakfast or dinner.  Not that great at cooking?  Go to our easy recipe section for ideas.  It doesn't have to be perfect, she will love that you put forth the effort.

4.  Plan a surprise picnic with the basket, flowers, blankets, and do not show up with out the wine or champagne.  If it's cold or rainy outside, have a indoor picnic.  Put the blankets on the floor, preferably near a window  where there is some light or near a fireplace (Make sure there is a warm, crisp fire.  If it's not summertime.).  

5.  Set aside some time to talk to her, not lecture, but listen and share with sincerity.  Sounds a little too girly?  It's not, it is you showing her that you care about her and what she is feeling.  Once she is able to share, safely with you, things will lighten up and  love can resume.   Listening only requires that you listen and maybe ask a question or two so you will understand what she is really feeling.  You do not have to solve anything.  Just be there for her.  

Things a Man Should not do to a Woman

Getting along with a woman is easier than you may think.  Below are some suggestions of things a man should not do, if he wants to have a successful relationship.   

1.  Put down her dreams -  Be open to her thoughts and ideas.  Give your opinion only if it is positive.

2.  Leave her out of your life -  If you are interested in a woman, do not constantly persue activities that are of no interest to her.  Ask her what she would like to do sometimes.  Also, it is a good idea to involve her in some of the things you are interested in, but it doesn't have to be everything all the time.  Everybody needs some space.   

3.  Leave her alone all the time - A relationship involves two people.  Once you get to know her, it is sometimes a common mistake for a man to take it for granted that he doesn't have to spend quality or quantity time with the new lady in his life.  It is okay to pull away for a little while, but don't stay away too long.  This can cause problems.
 
4.  Deprive her of intimacy -  Do not confuse intimacy with sex.  Hold her hand, share something about your day or yourself that she may not know, or walk and talk together.  These are some examples of intimacy.  Watching the football game or any television show together is usually not a woman's idea of intimacy.   

5.  Make her feel inadequate - Your woman is no different from anyone else you might deal with, she needs kindness and gentleness just like the co-worker you might greet at work.  You are the one she is supposed to be able to turn to for comfort.    

6.  Give her a reason to mistrust you - It is a woman's nature to want to feel safe.  If you are looking for a long term relationship with the lady in your life, be open and honest with her.  While you are working to keep your secrets safe from her, you are also building an invisible wall that will destroy intimacy and trust over time.   



 

Celebrating With Style

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2.  Get her a gift basket filled with goodies to celebrate the theme of the day:   Birthday, Dating Anniversary, or Just Because You Love Her.  For more basket ideas, click here.

3.  A stuffed animal never gets old, but spice it up a bit with a love poem.  Check out the lovely Baby Bear with a poem attached, click here.  

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What's Wrong with Her?

Men, have you ever wondered why your woman behaves a certain way sometimes?  A woman's behavior can be a mystery, but here are some questions and answers that might give you some idea as to how to handle some situations when they occur.

1.  When asked "Do you love me?", when you just told her you did two days ago, what is going on with her?
Answer:  A woman has an underlying insecurity about whether her man really loves her.  Reassure her you love her and move on, it only takes a few seconds of your time.

2.  Why does she want to talk about your relationship when you least want to talk?
Answer:  Women can sometimes become preoccupied with getting the relationship back on track.  During that time you may need space.  Let her know in a loving way that everything is okay, you need some space, and that you love her, you can never say it too much.           

3.  What is going on when she accuses you of not caring about her, when you know you are working to give her what she wants?
Answer:  Emotional security is far more important than financial security.  Plan to spend a little more time with her and know that she will downsize if it will keep you around more.   

4.  What if she says she doesn't feel close to you when you have been dating for a while, are engaged, or even married and you are sharing a bed.  
Answer:  Closeness means you are best friends to a woman, do not be so guarded, share things with her and remember it is the little things you do that count.

5.  She sometimes get upset when you stop giving her compliments on how she looks, what is that all about?  
Answer:  Every woman needs to know that her man finds her beautiful.  Tell her she is beautiful, regularly.

 
Women are Fragile
   
Even if your relationship is great, your mate likely has a fundamental insecurity about your love.  When that insecurity is triggered, she may respond in ways that may confuse you and sometimes dismay you, until she feels reassured that you love her.  
Women need to feel loved.  That is why the Bible tells a man to "love his wife".  You may only be dating or engaged to the woman you are currently with; however, the insecurity does not start once you marry.  Keep in mind that the insecurity exist because she is a woman, married or single.  When relationship insecurity is triggered, it is very painful for a woman, sometimes debilitating and it sometimes becomes impossible for them to get it off their minds. 
Below are a few things that trigger insecurity:

1.  Conflict  -  anythings that gives her a feeling that something is wrong.

2.  Withdrawal - withdrawal is normally how a man responds to conflict.  Unfortunately, withdrawing stimulates more unwanted feelings in a woman.

3.  Silence - women can feel unspoken conflict, especially when her man is more quiet than usual.

4.  Emotionally spent - that has nothing to do with you, sometimes, but sometimes it does.  If you have been involved in any of the above triggers, she has probably exhausted herself from trying to communicate with you.  She may withdraw, but some love, kindness, and respect can bring her around.

5.  Absent a lot - if you are absent a lot, she may see your absence as a challenge to the security of your love.

6.  Unresolved relationship issues - if a woman has a concern about the relationship that does not feel resolved, even if there is no conflict, she is going to want to talk.

How to Handle Her Insecurities

When the insecurities are triggered.  Here are some suggestions for handling things in the face of insecurity:  

1.  During conflict reassure her that you love her. 

2.  If she is upset, she doesn't need space, she needs a hug.  Give it to her.  Do not make the situation about you.                           

3.  If she appears to be difficult, do not withdraw love from her.  Reassure her of your love.  If you do not know what to say, simply say, "I love you." and reach for her.

4.  Pursue her sometimes.  If you have been dating her for sometime, do not assume that she is okay with you constantly doing other things and ignoring her.  

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